Confidence therapy – how to build confidence
Confidence therapy – we believe confidence is something you can learn, build & develop. If lack of confidence is affecting your everyday life, then our London-based therapists can help.
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Confidence therapy explained
Confidence is something that we all learn during our childhood. There are certain events that may hinder the natural growth of our confidence such as being bullied or growing up in a strict, expectant family. This is not always the case however as sudden changes in our life can affect our confidence even during adulthood. Low levels of confidence can cause a variety of symptoms from negative thinking or irrational thoughts of failure to avoiding activities and experiences. If lack of confidence is affecting your everyday life, then we can help.
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What is confidence?
Confidence is a person’s belief that a chosen course of action is the right choice and that they can rightly perform that action. Confidence, or self-confidence, is often seen as a personality trait; it is often perceived as something you might be born with. At Pinnacle, we believe confidence is something you can learn, build and develop.Those with high levels of confidence believe they can achieve what they set out to do, and that their lives will go as they plan. Self-confident people generally trust in their own abilities and judgement. Low confidence can affect you in many ways; you may struggle with assertiveness, communicating with others, or social anxiety. This, in turn, can affect your relationships, career, and your emotional and mental health.
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“Your behaviour, your body language, how you react to different situations and how you speak can depict your confidence levels and the amount of belief you have in yourself. Wherever you sit on the spectrum, know that both self-worth and confidence can be developed.”
Richard Reid – CEO, Therapist & Coaching Psychologist
Using CBT and hypnotherapy for confidence building
We believe that therapy is an effective way to build confidence. The use of therapy helps to target both the symptoms and the cause(s) behind a lack of confidence.In order to treat confidence issues, it is important to discuss your past. We understand that ‘one size doesn’t fit all’ and that each of our clients is different and has their own set of unique needs and circumstances. We will work collaboratively with you and use a combination of therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and hypnotherapy.[LINK]
Our approach to confidence building therapy
Your therapist will guide you through your past to events that may have been locked in your subconscious. Together we can tackle the root cause and start to build confidence. Therapy will help you to challenge any negative thinking that contributes to feelings of low confidence, helping you to grow in a more positive and assertive manner, proving your inner self wrong by accomplishing something that you didn’t think you could.Confidence building can be done with just your therapist, though it may be recommended that you attend a confidence course where you can talk to others who suffer from low confidence for support. This helps to give people with low confidence a sense of achievement within a group.
Together, our network of therapists have treated thousands of patients
Client success stories
“I just wanted to thank you for all your help. I really feel like I’m getting better and starting to become the person who I really am.”
“I’m so grateful to Pinnacle for giving me the chance to get rid of my fears and for my new found confidence.”
“The best investment I have ever made, how can you put a price on quality of life? Would recommend for anyone suffering from anxiety.”
A confidence therapy case study
Carly was intelligent, successful and attractive but had a debilitating lack of self-confidence. These feelings prompted her to feel anxious in social situations and to actively avoid opportunities for career progression. Carly was very adept at using words and imagery so we used metaphors to represent how she felt about her situation. We identified the image of a huge grey ball to signify the lack of confidence that was crushing her. I encouraged her to find a way of altering it and she found a way to have it ‘dry out’ and disappear.The change was then tested. She was asked to visualise being in a group and immediately said she felt “scared”. This feeling was used to lead to her second metaphor, being surrounded by spikes suspended in the air. They were there to hold her back and stop her getting into trouble. This was probably the actual cause of her problems, an originally helpful behaviour response that had gone out of control. Instead of keeping her out of trouble, it was now stopping her doing anything at all. To transform the spikes she was asked to look really closely at them, and when she did so she was surprised to find that each one she looked at just popped out of existence. She cleared all the spikes this way. When she was mentally led into the group situation this time she was totally confident that she could join in and even lead the group naturally and easily.I then asked Carly to imagine a friend asking her to start a company, another thing she said could not imagine doing. She immediately came up with a third metaphor. She was inside a cage with black steel bars and she was calling out to people walking by, but they were unable to see her. Later she was able to transform the cage so that the walls disappeared but she found that she still was holding on to a few bars, even though she was now outside the cage. She found that she did not want to let go. This indicated that the symbol represented some sort of resource for her, and she did want to lose it.Valuable resources are always kept, so it was suggested she transform the bars into something useful that she could carry around with her. It turned into a silver ball in her hand. But as soon as she felt it in her hand part of her wanted to throw it away. So she transformed it again and it turned into something she could keep in her pocket. As soon as it was in the pocket it merged with her body and ceased to exist. She then said that she was walking along with all the other people and they were not paying any attention to her.She was again tested against all her scenarios and all her fears had totally cleared. As she was tested against each of the things she said she could not do, a wide smile appeared on her face and she realised that it was all over. She was free of it.
What can you expect from a therapy-to-build-confidence session?
Our therapy sessions are tailored to suit your needs. Our sessions usually last from 30 minutes to an hour; and our courses usually consist of around 6 to 12 sessions.We may also recommend attending a confidence course where you can talk to others who suffer from low confidence for support.
